Miu Lan Esposo-Aguiar died on March 31, 2000, from injuries after being set ablaze on March 12, 2000, allegedly by her husband, Gregory Aguiar. Obviously, this is a despicable and heinous crime. It is a tragedy that shocks our conscience.
Miu Lan Esposo-Aguiar died on March 31, 2000, from injuries after being set
ablaze on March 12, 2000, allegedly by her husband, Gregory
Aguiar.
Obviously, this is a despicable and heinous crime. It is a tragedy
that shocks our conscience. How can someone that professes their love for us,
hurt us so much? That is a question humanity has faced from time immemorial, an
albatross that will forever challenge our souls.
This newspaper, The Garden
Island, June 28, 2000, reported that “since the crime, residents have
staged rallies calling for a halt against violence against women.” When
Gregory Aguiar’s case unravels, it will show that Mr. Aguiar is not the
appropriate poster boy for the rallies.
Mr. Aguiar, 49 years old, has
worked for the same company for almost 30 years and is not prone to violence.
Mr. Aguiar, a teetotaler is a hardworking man who loves his wife dearly.
Gregory Aguiar, who does not use any illegal drug or even smoke, is a meek
father who has never had problems with the law.
As opposed to the court of
public opinion, we should let Mr. Aguiar be tried in a court of law, where the
facts, circumstances, contexts and principles of the Rule of Law are all taken
into consideration.
Meanwhile, let us remember the poet, Alexander Pope,
who wrote “to err is human, to forgive divine.” Forgiving does not
mean forgetting. We can not forget hurt, nor should we. Forgiving does allow us
to unlock the emotional handcuffs and begin the process of healing. Forgiving
is not about letting the person that hurt us off the hook either, it is pulling
the thorn out of our flesh.
Surely, it will be painful, especially for Miu
Lan’s family. We need, however, to let go of our anger, and recognize that
every saint has a past and every sinner has a future. We should let the Role of
Law prevail and not become obstacles on the road to justice.
Jaye
Alford, Inmate,
Kauai Community Correctional Center